Story Time

So today, I wanna tell a little story. Once upon a time there was this girl. We'll call her... Jane. Jane dated a guy that we'll call... John.
So Jane and John were together for several months. But from the time they had just started dating. John wanted to know every step Jane made. If Jane got a phone call, John wanted to know who was calling. If jane went to the store, John wanted a picture of the aisle to prove she was at the store. John made Jane get rid of her friends and her family. He used the excuse that he had "trust issues". He even told her how to spend her own money. Jane did everything John wanted, because she figured if he learned to trust her, he would get better.
Well, let me tell you. It most certainly did not get better. If John called Jane and she was eating, he said it sounded like she was having sex. He started missing work because he thought Jane was cheating all day. He started controlling what Jane could put on social media, and when they went out, Jane couldn't speak to any males and could only discuss certain things with females.
Jane felt like she was losing her identity. She felt like a prisoner in her own home. So she decided that she wouldn't live like this anymore. She told John that this was ridiculous and she wasn't going to put up with this treatment anymore. John agreed and everything seemed good for a couple of days.
So one day, John told Jane he needed to go to the emergency room. He was having breathing problems. Jane took him, and there, she learned that John had taken some drugs to get high and had drank a lot of alcohol. But John had taken too many drugs and drank too much. So he was diagnosed with an overdose. After they left the hospital, Jane expressed her concern for John's self destructive behavior. John agreed and said he was done with the drugs and alcohol.
A few days later, John was high again. Instead of going to work, he stole Jane's car twice in one week to go to a "pay by the hour" motel on the seedy part of town. Jane had to go retrieve her vehicle. Then a couple days later, John overdosed again. John kept saying he was sorry, but Jane had had enough. She asked John to leave. Of course, he didn't leave peacefully.
Jane later found out that John had been previously diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, and had been dealing with a drug and alcohol problem for years. Jane felt like she needed some therapy after this volatile relationship. She knew she would never be the same. John, after losing Jane, decided to go to rehab and get better. But he cut Jane completely out of his life. Maybe he was ashamed of his behavior. Or maybe he still felt deep down that Jane drove him to do the things he did because she was untrustworthy.
I tell you this story, because some people will call Jane stupid for not leaving earlier. But I believe God brings people into your life for a reason. Maybe John needed Jane to see that he had a problem. Maybe Jane needed John to show her that she deserves so much better. At the end of the day, if they are both better people, was the relationship so bad?